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Ministering to Kids and their Family in a Hospital

Ministering to Kids and their Family in a Hospital

I recently came upon a car accident where I was able to assist in a time of need. For most people, they wouldn’t think much further beyond witnessing an accident. But for the families involved in the accident, the physical pain, emotional turmoil, and spiritual journey will continue to unfold for them for much longer.

Here is how we can respond as ministers:

1) Make contact with the family. If you are on the scene of the accident, give them your business card with information and let them know you are available if you need them. Some families might later seek out your help for counseling or just a shoulder to cry on. Bottom line is make yourself available.

2) Follow up with a visit. Find out their names and visit the hospital. In some cases you will not be able to see the patients, but several family members will be in the waiting room area. Seek them out and pray with them. If you can connect with the patients, go in, pray, let them know you are available to help, and then leave. Don’t stay longer than necessary.

3) Love on those kids. Loving on the kids will speak volumes of love to the families of those kids. This particular accident needed a med-evac helicopter to transport the preschooler to the hospital. In the goody-bag that I prepared for him I put a toy helicopter that cost one buck. This will help him remember some of the heroes that came to his rescue that day.

There isn’t any need to spend a lot of money. Go to the local Christian bookstore and find some stickers and inexpensive toys. Go to Wal-Mart of the dollar store and get some fun toys that only cost a dollar. While you are there pick up a “get well” card for a buck too.

Here is my goody-bag for this trip:

hospital goody bag
1) Bibles – These are nice Bibles. This was only possible because the local Christian bookstore donated these that day. I don’t have a budget that would allow me to do this regularly.
2) Cup that costs 99 cents.
3) Helicopter toy- cost 99 cents
4) Get well card- 99 cents

Make sure to include your business card so they can get in touch with you at a later date if they need you.

As you can see, if doesn’t take much to minister to the families. These few simple steps will leave great impressions on every family you minister to in a hospital.

Stay tuned for a blog post about a goody-bag for parents who have just have a baby!

 

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I held a lifeless body of a little girl in my arms today…

I held a lifeless body of a little girl in my arms today…

As I drove up over a hill I saw the smoke in the distance. Two vehicles had just collided at a busy intersection, enroute to driving my first grade son to school. I pulled off on the grassy shoulder. “Elijah,” I said. “Hang tight, Dad needs to go help these people.” I cracked the windows and headed to the smashed-in cars.

A woman was screaming….”My kids…..My kids….help my kids!” I ran quickly as she was trying to pull her preschool age boy with a bloody face out of the car. He was crying out. I noticed liquids pouring out from the smoking vehicle. Another gentleman approached so I instructed him to take the little boy away from the car to a safe spot.

The mom continued screaming, “My daughter!” I reached into the front seat and cradled her into my arms.

I held a lifeless body of a little girl in my arms today…

or so it seemed. She lay limp as I carried her across the road to safety. No visible motion in the girl as I transported her. Once I layed her on the ground with my hand under her head I recognized that she was breathing well. Praise God.

This sweet little second grader remained unconscious for several minutes. I can’t help but to think that this could be any one of my children.

Finally she regained consciousness and cried out. Everyone let out a sigh of relief and a gentle smile.

In come our heroes: the fire fighters, law enforcement, EMS, and the med-evac helicopter to attend to the injured and continue to provide safety for others. The ambulance and helicopter take the kids to hospital for treatment.

Both kids will be okay.

Three things I take away from this life-altering event today:
1. Don’t take life for granted. Only God knows the number of our days. Live each day as your last and live it to the glory of God.

2. Children are a gift. I watched as that dear mom stood over her daughter in distress and deep concern.

3. God desires to use us all the time. I could have left the scene saying that they were “lucky” nothing else happened, but I didn’t. Instead I took the opportunity to tell those I encountered, “Praise God for His protection!” Turn people to the One we can trust…the One that cares the most for us…the One that holds the world in His hands. Simple words can lead others to initiate a relationship with the God who loves them deeply.

I followed up with both parties at the hospital and ministered to their families. Check out my post to see how to minister to a family when their kids are in the hospital.
 
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Posted by on September 3, 2014 in Children's Ministry, Family life

 

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D6 Megan Lacefield #D62013 Leading the NextGen Ministry Team

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D6 Megan Lacefield #D62013

Leading the NextGen Ministry Team

Have a cohesive plan from birth to college.

Leadership starts with you.

Consistently lead up
support the core values of your pastor

Consistently lead down
Lead with excellence.
It takes constant encouragement.
Know them personally

Create a team with individual and specific job descriptions.
Create an atmosphere of crossover between ministries.
Communicate a clear vision
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Fight for the unity of the team

Do you have a plan for the next generation? Do you have a plan for your team?

Megan Lacefield
Pastor of NextGen Ministry at New River Fellowship Church
@meganlacefield

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Children's Ministry, Ministry

 

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D6 Dr. Timothy Paul Jones #D62013 Conference Notes

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D6 Dr. Timothy Paul Jones #D62013

Family Ministry is about having a ministry bigger than your ministry.
What Jesus did was for the church and for the world. Something much bigger than your ministry.

How did our storylines in our ministries get so small?

There are spiritual reasons for this, but at the same time there is a context we live in that defines why our storylines got so small.

End of Deut. 6… to tell the story of generations past with view of generations future.

The History of Family Ministry in Five Drawings

1. The Society Movement -late 1800s
2. Efficiency Movement -early 1900s
3 characteristics: centralize, segment, professionalize
3. Separation– mid 1900’s
separate youth out. Keep them connected to church during youth years, and hopefully they will come back to the church after youth years.
4. Era of Dis-integration– late 1900’s
conglomeration of separated silos
other groups withiin the church wanted emphasis and self-focus like the youth had
congregation became a collection of programs
5. Coordination– present and future
comes out of a dissatification of this dis-integration era
keep different ministries but draw them in and help them to see how essential integration with generations is.
helps them see a image of a bigger story
driven by Gospel and drawn by a diverse community

Recognize you are part of a story that God is telling throughout the ages.

Help your children see that their lives are bigger than themselves.

What do I do with my church?
Don’t change things you are doing. Re-purpose what you are doing.

The TIE Principle: 
Train Involve Equip. 
How can you train, involve, equip your parents to do ministry?

Train
Involve (do events that if your parents don’t show up, then it doesn’t work)
Equip (give a resource to parents to remind them of what they are to be doing)

What do I do with me?
Often our value is based on what we do in our ministry. We must remember that the story is bigger than ourselves. Our value is settled in Jesus.

Dr. Timothy Paul Jones
Proessor of Family MInistry at Southern
Serves in children’s ministry at Sojourn Community
@timothywashere

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Children's Ministry, Ministry

 

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D6 Rob Morgan #D62013 Hope for Your Prodigal

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D6 Rob Morgan #D62013
Hope For Your Prodigal

Sometimes attempting to be a D6 parent leads to L15 parenting (Deut 6, Luke 15)

Psalm 121 He who keeps Israel will never slumber nor sleep. (my child)

2 Samuel 14:14 The Lord devises means so that the Lords own will not be banished from Him

God has a way of working in our lives when we don’t realize that He is working at all

Luke 15:11-32

The correct response for a godly person is joy when anyone makes a response to God in their life

The older son was just as much a prodigal because he emblemized the pharisees

Grief/Grace Cycle when dealing with children in difficult times and situations

1. Pain
2. Prayer
 
James 5:16
Col. 4:13
3. Patience
4. Peace
Acts 19:36 ; Psalm 107; Matt. 8:26 ; Psalm 131
The Lord wants you to have peace in the storm and calmness in the crisis
5. Praise

Remember: Prodigals have a way of coming home.
 

Rob Morgan
Senior Pastor of The Donelson Fellowship
@robertjmorgan

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Children's Ministry, Ministry

 

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D6 Dave Stone #D62013 3 Gifts for Your Kids

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D6 Dave Stone #D62013

3 Gifts for Your Kids

1. Give Value to One Another

They need to know that they are of value.

We say kids are the hope of tomorrow. But we are slow to ask them to serve alongside us. We are slow to disciple them.

Make sure that the cemetary doesn’t enter into the church.

Dont fall asleep wondering if God can use you. Instead fall asleep wondering how God can use you.

Do you just sleep in your home? Or do you live in your neighborhood?


2. Extend Grace to One Another

As He extends grace to me, I am to extend grace to others.

We show grace because we need grace.

It means we need to be on the lookout for people to show grace to.

For some of us it is easier to accept that Jesus came back from the grave than to accept that God can forgive our sin.

3. Show Love to One Another

Activity for Christ does not equal intimacy with Christ

If the Holy Spirit pulled out of your life, would you even acknowledge His absence 

The next time Satan reminds you of your past remind him of his future

Dave Stone
Senior Minister of Southeast Christian Church
@DaveStone920

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Ministry

 

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D6 Rob Reinow #D62013

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D6 Rob Reinow #D62013

A Church Philosophy for the Generations

D6 Rob Reinow #D62013

A Church Philosophy for the Generations

2 Tim 3:14-17

Three theological foundations:

1. A lost doctrine in the church today: The sufficiency of scripture
The Bible is not only true, it is enough. It is sufficient.

Teaching- how to think right
Reproof- how not to think wrong
Correction- how not to act wrong 
Training in righteousness- how to act right

Four levels of Scripture:
The Bible teaches doctrine- the truth of God
The Bible teaches righteousness- the will of God
The Bible teaches methodology- the ways of God
The Bible teaches jurisdiction- the call of God

2. The doctrine of jurisdiction
The jurisdiction principle
When a larger jurisdiction usurps responsibility from a lesser jurisdiction,
1) the crisis will not be solved and,
2) the proper jurisdiction is robbed of motivation, time, and resources to do the job

3. The patterns and commands for the early church, given to us by God in the Bible, are to be followed by us today.


Families/Church in the Early Church

Ephesians 6:4- early church methodology. Pastors helping parents.

The key to unleashing youth and child evangelism is discipleship within the family.

No biblical precident for separating worship with age.
Col 3, Eph 6, Acts 20
Children were included in the corporate worship service of the early church.

So many of our decisions in our church today are based on pragmatism….what works best.

Women’s Ministry
Titus 2:4-5 The heart of women’s ministry.
Two top priorities in women’s ministry is marriage ministry and children’s ministry.

Men’s Ministry
1 Tim 3., Titus 1- Criteria for men. First, he must manage his family well.

Global Missions
Gen. 1:28 multi-generational

Evangelism
The men of the early church didn’t invite people as much to the church as they did to their home.

In the early church multi-generational ministry wasn’t a department in church, but a framing for all of the ministry of the church.

Rob Reinow
Founder of Visionary Family Ministries
Author of Visionary Parenting and Visionary Marriage
@visionaryfam

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Posted by on October 18, 2013 in Children's Ministry, Ministry

 

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